Three Makes Baby Podcast

Overcoming Secrets

April 27, 2023 is International Donor Conception Awareness Day.

Link to IDCAD2023: https://donorconceptionawarenessday.com/

Link to educational courses for parents and CEUs for professionals

CEUS: https://three-makes-baby-preparation-and-parenting.teachable.com/p/home

Fertility challenges can cause intense feelings that make you want to withdraw and hide. It’s important to understand the difference between secrecy and privacy and how the shame of infertility may live on.

Secrecy is when you actively withhold information from others, often out of fear or shame. This can be detrimental to your mental health and relationships as it creates a sense of isolation and can lead to feelings of guilt and shame. It takes a lot of effort and energy to maintain a secret, and the longer you keep it, the more it can weigh you down.

On the other hand, privacy is when you choose to keep certain information to yourself or within a trusted circle. This can be a healthy way to protect your personal boundaries and maintain control over your own life. It’s important to remember that you have the right to privacy, and it’s okay to set boundaries around what you share with others.

If you’re struggling with fertility challenges, it’s important to find a support system that you trust and feel comfortable opening up to. This could be a therapist, support group, or trusted friends and family members. By sharing your experiences and feelings with others, you can find a sense of community and support that can help you navigate this difficult time.

While it’s important to protect your privacy, it’s also important to recognize when secrecy is doing more harm than good. By opening up and sharing your struggles with others, you can find the support and understanding you need to overcome fertility challenges and move forward with your life.

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Anonymous Egg Donor Wants to Be Known

"Alot of times, donors are just viewed as genetic material." Melissa, an egg donor for two years, shares her experience with anonymous donation. Now that she has children she wonders what happened with her donations. She wonders if the kids are alright. She expresses her willingness to be open and connect with the recipient parents and children, while also respecting boundaries.

If you'd like to learn more about how to prepare to connect, I've got some resources for you! Making Contact is a how-to guide to prepare for contact whether you are a donor, donor conceived person or recipient parent. Link for more: https://three-makes-baby-preparation-and-parenting1.teachable.com/p/making-contact

Recipient Parent and Her ”Unknown” Sperm Donor Meet

Ever wondered what it would be like to meet the donor you used to conceive? A recipient parent, Romi, and her previously unknown sperm donor, meet and share their experience with Jana Rupnow on this episode of Three Makes Baby.

Dave Berry: Re-making Identity after Discovering Hard Truths about your Biological Origins

Dave Berry, featured on Good Morning America and the New York Times, bravely shares a difficult discovery about his biological origins. His biological father was his mom's fertility doctor, who used his sperm without her consent to conceive him.

There are some even darker details in this episode, as well as moments of once in a lifetime happiness. If you think it's rare for biological siblings in different families to bump into each other, you may be shocked by the story he tells about his sisters.

Dave's resiliency and compassion to help others is truly inspiring. He is speaking out to create a safe space for fertility patients in all 50 states. Listen to this episode of @threemakesbaby on Apple podcasts or use the link in my bio. Watch for Dave's story to be featured in a future Dateline episode.

 

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#fertilityfraud #daveberry

#BiologicalFather #Doctor #fertilitydoctor

#Siblings #DNATest

#DNADiscovery #LateDiscovery

 

Ally’s Take on Neverending New Siblings

In this episode of @threemakesbaby, she shares how her relationship with a growing number of half-siblings has evolved over time, including some of the joys and challenges. Ally shares what it's like to learn of new siblings and how she copes with not knowing how many more are out there. We also confront the idea that bumping into an unknown half-sibling is rare and discuss why limiting the number of families that use a single donor is important.

 

I know you will enjoy her honest and thoughtful perspective as always!

 

Parents, if you wonder how your donor conceived child may experience half-sibling relationships in adulthood, you won't want to miss this episode.

 

It was so great to talk to Ally of @halfofmepodcast again and after two years, she has a special announcement about her podcast!

 

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#Siblings #DNATest #podcast

#DNADiscovery #threemakesbabypodcast

#DonorConceivedRights #DonorConceivedPersonRights

#ThirdpartyReproduction

#donorconceivedfamily

#twomoms #twodads

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Lesbian and Donor Conceived, a New Perspective

Jana Rupnow talks to the woman behind @satricaldonorconception, a lesbian and donor conceived adult.  We discussed one of her posts that caused a stir in the LGBTQ community and talk about some of the complex issues about family building using purchased donor gametes. She confronts the idea of a two parent household as being "revolutionary" and challenges new ways of looking at family building to within her community, especially to consider the needs of donor conceived people, like herself.

 

Stacy’s Success Story

I spoke with the founder of RISE Collaborative, @stacytaubman, about her late discovery of being donor conceived. She is in contact with her biological father, a prominent plastic surgeon, and writing a book about her experience. If you haven't told your child, adult or younger, if they are donor conceived, Stacy encourages it. (You could plan to do it on IDCAD, April 27, 2022)

 

Listen to our conversation, episode 70 of @threemakesbabypodcast.

 

Kiara Raised by Single Mom by Choice

Kiara shares her experienced being raised by a single mom and what it was like being told about her story from the beginning.  She found her donor as an adult and has a relationship with siblings conceived using the same donor. She is open and willing to share her story with others. Connect with her on social media: @kiararaeschuh

 

*I use the terminology the dc person wishes to use.

Emma, New Zealand native, embodies ”Curiosity, Perseverance and Happiness”

Emma, New Zealand native, embodies her bio father's motto "Curiosity, Perseverance and Happiness" as she shares her story of being donor conceived and the reason for her advocacy work.

 

 

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